A misalignment between the two could make you completely miserable, trigger depression or even cause you to become physically ill, warns Saundra Loffredo. I tend to agree since many people I work with and especially teenagers don’t even know what their core values are.
In exercise 3 from my book we explore your personal qualities. To find out more about personal qualities type in the words ‘unique personal qualities’ into a search engine. One I’ve used before is by Compatibility solutions inc.
We choose our top 10 and then the top 2 and then find examples in our lives where we use those qualities in our everyday life. Many of my students start the process of finding out who they are. Why not try this for yourself and for your teens? It’s a great way of getting to know each other on a deeper level.
In recent posts I’ve given away free worksheets to start the process of pupils taking 100% responsibility and the teenagers always respond really well.
In class we often talk about Grades and these are important BUT they don’t help teenagers focus on what they’re passionate about and they often choose subjects, courses and degrees they are simply not engaged with.
So, The Success Principles for Teens™ Programme takes a different approach discovering what teenagers are passionate about and then finding a road map for them to take forward.
Consider this – if more teens know who they are, and what they want from life and their career and were passionate about moving toward would that be better than demotivated and unengaged pupils I’ve taught at Universities across the UK. I hope your answer would be YES.
At a workshop with a group of teenagers at Havant and South Downs College I asked this question “What would be the job you’d love so much that you’d do it for free but that you’d actually get paid for?” One young lady said she wanted to be a gardener and got clarity about the types of courses she would be passionate about pursuing. University is not for everyone!
Please ask yourselves and your teens the same question and see what the answers are.
I have the great privilege of maximising the potential in the #teenagers I work with. Most recently students at Great Marlow School have been taking part in The Success Principles for Teenagers™ Programme and one of the first worksheets we do together is Exercise 1: How to take 100% responsibility. The power is given to #students and they decide which areas they want to focus on.
Some of the responses 8 weeks ago were: I will go to homework club, I will complete my homework on time, I will revise more, I will less argumentative, I will learn my lines for Drama, I will sleep more etc. Each week we revisit how that’s going for them and the progress they make which is amazing. One week straight after the programme one young man said “Right, I’m off to homework club – I want better grades, bye Miss”. You can imagine how happy we all were, amazing!
So, why don’t you try this for yourself and any young people in your household and let me know how you get on by leaving me a comment.
70% of teenagers do not know what they want from their life and career and there are 4.9 million teenagers in the UK in the same boat! I know because I work with hundreds of teenagers every year.
My passion is to maximise everyone’s future potential and help them to find out who they are and what they want from their lives. Working in schools is rewarding for me when I experience students ‘lightbulb’ moments when they realise what they want and decide to go after it.
To help parents I also wrote a book which is celebrating its first anniversary this month (time flies when you are having fun). The book is called The Ultimate Guide for Parents: How to help your kids become self-confident, happy, and passionate. All the exercises I use with students are in the book so that parents can help their teenagers as well.
Here’s an example you can use for yourself and with your teens to get the ball rolling.
Exercise 2: What do you love to do?
“What would be the job you’d love so much that you’d do for free but that you could actually get paid for?”
“Think back over all the things you’ve done so far in your life – what made you the happiest?”
I’m super happy to be working with Nik Mahon and his team at Winchester School of Art again this year. I’m supervising MA student final projects which I really enjoy and look forward to inspiring and supporting my students from all over the world.
This year Covid19 has impacted the face to face meetings we would normally have. I am so thankful that I work in a working environment where on-line meeting rooms are available to us so that the students can have their tutorial sessions a usual.
If there was ever a great time for reviewing your life, the time is now. I work with teenagers and adults daily and it’s an immense moment of clarity when mindsets start to change, and we all take 100% responsibility for our lives and career. Here are 6 ways to review your life:
Where did you used to travel to every day? Was travelling every day critical? How much have you saved on fuel and travel costs? Our household is saving over £300 a month on fuel costs and reducing the impact on the environment.
How are you keeping in touch with friends and family? We have more communication now than ever before because I know for example that my 94-year-old Mum needs company, but I can’t go so I phone every day.
Who could you do something nice for? There are loads of fantastic community support groups popping up so why not join one and support your local community.
What can you do differently to create some time for yourself, your friends and family? The gyms, cafes and restaurants are all closed so why not have a virtual coffee break or lunch. I know some friends who had a virtual BBQ last week, it was great fun for all.
When will you make the decisions to change what you do even if it’s a small thing? I’ve decided to be appreciative of the staff out there who continue to work during these difficult times. Yesterday I thanked the lady in our local Co-op for being there and keeping the shop open for us all.
and finally why do we continue to do the same things and expecting a different result. I hear a lot of people who moan about their life but seem unable to take one step at a time to make the changes they so badly need. Unless you’re passionate about what you do take small steps to change.
I was in a school yesterday teaching The Success Principles for Teens™ and we were focusing on pupils taking 100% responsibility for their lives. In the first week the pupils identified 6 areas of their lives where they could take more responsibility. This week we reflected on what they had done differently. The feedback included “I’ve started to go to exam revision classes.” ”I decided to attend school more often.” “I decided to start revising instead of gaming for 4 hours.” “I eat dinner with the family now, “I decided to stop arguing with my teachers.”
With one simple exercise the pupils are making positive changes to their lives and those around them. Well done everyone, good job!