Friday Motivation for you

My plan as you know is to share motivational thoughts, stories, tips, and tools to help discover what you want in life and how to achieve it. So this week I thought I’d share a really valuable resource with you today. It’s called ‘Decide what you want’ and it’s one of our core Success Principles as Jack Canfield trainers.

Did you know – Inside of every one of us is that tiny seed of the “you” that you were meant to become?

Unfortunately, many of us have buried this seed in response to our parents, teachers, coaches, and other adult role models as you were growing up and life changes doesn’t it?

So “In the name of being sensible, we end up becoming numb to our own desires”. We play along and think everything is fine. Have you done that? I certainly have on several occasions in my life. One of them was playing the dutiful wife.

But here’s the thing – not knowing what you want is costing you the opportunity to live the life you would enjoy if only you knew how. So, let’s do an exercise now which will help you to clarify what you want in your life and career. This is so exciting for me to share this with you.

Ask yourself the questions: What do you want to do, be and have?

Here’s a couple off my list:

I want to feed Giraffes in Nairobi, I want inspire people to go after what they want in life, I want to stay true to myself on every occasion, I want to live in a warm climate in the Winter.

Do you get the idea?

If you know what you don’t want -write that down and then next to it write what you do want. I found this easier for me at first. Write in the space below and carry on the list until you run out of thoughts.

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Notice how you feel when you focus on that you want. Many people spend time focusing on what they don’t want, when focus is shifted to what you want, your energy rises.

When you’re ready to take your list to the next level and get truly motivated to act I would love to be part of your journey. I’d like to invite you to join me for an informal, friendly workshop to explore what to do next with your list. A drink and a chat – what could be better than that?

The next free 60 minute workshop is on Wednesday 26th May 09:00-10:00 and you can register here:

With love Lesley x

It’s haunting you isn’t it?

anonymous woman walking in cold field

How to decide what you want in life…

So why not find out on Wednesday 28th April – 09:00-10am GMT?

In this FREE interactive workshop you’ll learn:

  • The 3 really, really important things you need to know
  • What happened to your dreams and ambitions
  • How to reconnect with what you want

Your life is complicated, dreams are squashed or forgotten and you lose your way.

Not knowing what you want is costing you the opportunity to live the life you would enjoy if only you knew how. I believe everyone should have the clear vision and tools to live their best life.

Sign up today to make sure you don’t miss it.

What do you do when fear hits you?

When fear hits you remember the words of Marianne Williamson.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate,” Williamson writes in A Return to Love.

“Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world.”

What are you waiting for?

 

You don’t want to miss this!

My free workshop will offer you a 60-minute-deep dive into “Deciding what you want” from life in your post pandemic word. What have you got to lose?

Yes, I want to join you on Wednesday 28th April at 09:00-10:00  GMT

Can you feel it?

I’m talking about the sense of rising energy and excitement that so many people seem to be experiencing these days…

It feels like the world is waking up from a long hibernation, eyes blinking as we adjust to the brightness of new life bursting with promise and potential.

We’re entering into a period of tremendous growth and transformation that will bring a lot of exciting opportunities – and unforeseen challenges as well.

So, how can you harness this surge of energy and use it to propel your life forward – without getting distracted or overwhelmed by all of the events, opportunities, or obstacles that will soon be appearing on your path?

YOU’VE GOT TO KNOW WHAT YOU WANT

  • To achieve your big goals and thrive in the exciting times ahead, you’ve got to have:
  • A clear vision of what you want your life to look like
  • A strong sense of purpose to keep you motivated and focused on your goals
  • A detailed roadmap to show you the path forward
  • Unshakeable confidence in yourself

… and unstoppable drive and energy to keep you moving forward no matter what obstacles appear on your journey.

And that is EXACTLY what I can help you achieve during my Create your future virtual event happening this May

JOIN ME FOR A POWERFUL 6 WEEKS OF GOAL-SETTING & GROWTH

During our six game-changing days together, I will help you create your ideal life vision and remove whatever challenges or obstacles have been preventing you from achieving your biggest goals in life.

You will learn how to:

  • Take 100% control over your life – no matter what’s happening in the world
  • Get clear on what you truly want – and how to achieve it
  • Create a master plan for the fulfilment of your vision
  • Align your work with your purpose and passions – and experience more meaning and fulfilment in everything you do
  • Release the brakes that have been holding you back from creating bigger and better results
  • Overcome any obstacles or challenges in your path
  • Develop an action-oriented mindset that will clear your path to success
  • Create a life that gives you great joy and abundance
  • Become the person you were always meant to be!

And if you book your spot now, you can save 50% on your registration by completing the contact form and then I will send you a discount code!

So if you’re eager to launch yourself into the months ahead with a clear plan and the tools you need to accomplish more than you thought possible, be sure to join me for this powerful event!

Better act fast, though – our special early bird rates are vanishing soon.

Hope to see you there!

To your success,

Lesley

What can life coaching help with?

Every day events happen in your life

…and I want to share with you a story that changed by life in a big way because of life coaching.

The story directly relates to a formula we use as Jack Canfield Trainers in the Success Principles and it’s called E + R = O. This stands for Event + Your Response = Outcome you get.

We respond to the events in our lives in different ways.

Right now, those events could be:

  • overcoming the Monday morning blues.
  • feeling you’ve lost your way a bit
  • building confidence.
  • finding a job or career that you love.
  • getting clear on your goals.
  • staying accountable to your goals.
  • doing more of the activities that engage you.
  • forming better relationships.
  • having more meaning in your life.

At the age of 38 several events happened:

  • I got divorced
  • I had to go back to work full-time to keep my son and I in a house and fed.
  • I had to move house and downsize, get a mortgage and set up home again.
  • My 4 year old was diagnosed with Autism and was expelled from school
  • My Dad died all in the same year and I wasn’t there for him or my mother.
  • I got made redundant 4 times

I responded (R) to all those events by remaining bewildered, sad, and confused and I remember crying a lot at the top of the stairs and in people’s offices and thinking “Why is this happening to me?”

The outcome (O) was an inability to move forward with my life for over two years.

So, having studied the Success Principles™ for some years it dawned on me that I wasn’t taking 100% responsibility for my life and I was responding to the events in my life in a negative way. I was blaming and complaining to people who didn’t care.

My responses to the events in my life just facilitated sadness, and pain.

Then it dawned upon me that I was the one who was responsible for my future success so I made a plan, set myself some goals and created a vision board.

I decided to go back to owning my own business again.

I am now feel confident, grateful and thankful that I have found my way back and am back in control of my life fulfilling my passion to help other people find their way in life. I became a Jack Canfield Certified Trainer in the Success Principles™ and am a dedicated trainer in this amazing method of coaching.

If you’ve got stuff going on in your life you’d like to deal with I’m going to start a 6-week course in May to help you move forward. If you’re interested drop me a message to go on the waiting list.

100% responsibility – nothing less will do.

I want to tell you a story that changed by life in a big way. The story relates directly to the first principle of success called “Take 100% responsibility for your life”.

So, here’s the thing during my 40’s  I got divorced and had to go back to work full-time to keep us in a house and fed. My son Alex was 4 at the time.

It seemed each time I got a job I was made redundant from it pretty quickly.

I felt bewildered, sad, and confused and I remember crying a lot thinking “Why is this happening to me?” I’m highly qualified, do a great job but still I get made redundant. I don’t understand.

The problem I had to overcome was that being made redundant wasn’t about me as a person.

I was just a payroll number. My fears revolved around whether I was good enough in the role yet I knew I was good at my job.

I got in my own way because I didn’t see the signs that I didn’t fit into an employee role. I got defensive when being re-interviewed for other roles which didn’t fit my resume which led to feelings of resentment.

The risk was that I would be left without any money to pay my bills and look after my son. So I kept trying and trying at various different jobs.

I nearly gave up and thought that Government handouts might be the final nail in the coffin.

The moral of my story is that it doesn’t matter how good you are, when employers don’t want you, they don’t want you.

Then it dawned upon me that perhaps I’m not great at being an employee or having other people being in control of my life.

The lightbulb moment for me was when a colleague once told me “It is what is it and we are where we are”. You have to move on Lesley. She then added “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”.

It then dawned on me that perhaps there was something better further down the line, but I didn’t see the message at the time.

So, I went back to owning my own business again.

Now I decide what I want to do and when to hire in people to fill skills shortages when needed.

I am thankful, glad, and lucky that I am back in control of my life fulfilling my passion to help other people find their way in life.

Would I recommend self-employment. Yes, for me it works and works well. I control my week, my workload, and my time off, it’s amazing. I’m my own boss and I love it.

The interesting thing for me is that people hunt me down for work and recommend me for work, so I feel excited when I get up in the morning wondering what’s coming my way next.

So, the purpose of this story was to show you how I took 100% responsibility for my life and that you can too.

With love Lesley

So what do you do?

People in networking meetings usually ask me “So, what do you do?”

My response is to say – I help my clients find the life and career they will love! Over 70% of the clients I’ve worked with had no idea what they wanted from life which is fine if you’re not bothered. It’s one reason you should not hire a life coach.

However, if you do want to know ‘what’s next in your life’ there has never been a better time to get some coaching either 1-1 or as part of a community of likeminded people.

The next question I get asked is “How to you do that?”

My response is that my job is to help them to examine what’s currently keeping them up at night. Here’s some examples.

Different generations worry about different things so as we progress through life the anxiety and stresses change which is completely normal.

Last week I helped a lady in her 20’s explore and discover what she wanted from life and now she is following her passion and moving to her dream job in Europe.

A man in his 30’s was worried about not having achieved anything yet. He went onto create of vision board with my help and now has a focus for the future and a plan to get there.

The Success Principles methodology has worked for decades but you might not have heard of it because its unique to Jack Canfield Certified Trainers. I use proven success principles to guide clients through a transition from feeling worried and stressed to finding their passion, clarity and a road map for their future which  transforms their self-confidence.

I won’t just tell you about these success principles…I will show you how to implement them into your life. Your invited to my next live on-line meet up. It’s FREE and lasts about 30 minutes. Drop me your details in the contact form and I’ll send you the Zoom meeting details. Please feel free to invite a friend as well.

What do you want in your life?

Early this year I ran an event for the Junior Chamber International which of course needed to be on-line via Zoom because of Covid.  The workshop was called “Putting your world back together using The Success Principles™”.

All my workshops are interactive and engaging and this one was no different and it was a huge pleasure to be working with JCI members again.

We did some practical, and inspiring exercises using two of The Success Principles I use as a Certified Jack Canfield Trainer.

The first Success Principle is called Take 100% responsibility for your life. The principle is about seeing how we are creating what we are experiencing through our thoughts, images. and behaviours. You’ll find the exercise really thought provoking both for yourself and others around you.

The second Success Principle we used is called “Decide what you want”. One of the easiest ways to start clarifying what you really want is to make a list of things you want to do, things you want to have and things you want to be before you die. This is a great way to get the ball rolling.

The lessons we all learnt from these exercises to is that to make progress in our lives we have to visualize clearly on our future wants and desires.

Here’s what Michael Rothon – JCI Southampton Local President said after the event:

“Lesley is a fantastic trainer, with endless enthusiasm for the effect that success principles can have in our lives. Her skill as a senior lecturer clearly shows with her storytelling techniques to deliver insightful and engaging training. I would 100% invite Lesley back to train for us again and recommend her to others! “

So, I’m asking you now “What you want to do, what you want to be, and what you want to have?”

If you don’t know why not come along to my free workshop starting soon. Take 45 minutes out of your day for you! Sign up on the contact form below quoting “I’m in” in the message tab.