Life And Career Coaching Blog – Lesley Strachan

Amazing volunteer awards

The amazing people awards were held at Lakeside North Harbour last week.

I was there because I was shortlisted for The Amazing Mentor Award which was a great honour.

My congratulations go to Colin Young MBE who won the award.

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Are you one of the 7 in 10 parents who worry about the decisions that their teenagers make?

 

Reportedly, seven-in-10 parents worry about the decisions that their teenage #children make, despite 75 per cent of young people admitting that they are happy with their judgements to date.

The research, published today by the National Citizen Service (NCS), reveals the pressure that many parents feel as they attempt to guide children through some of the big decisions early in life.

A-level choices, university applications and the effort put into #school study are some areas cited by parents as being of concern.

However, the study suggests that these worries are often fuelled by parental regrets; with nearly 90 per cent of those surveyed admitting they would have done things differently in their teenage years.

Furthermore, 18 per cent of #parents wish they had attended university, while 14 per cent regret their choice of A-levels.

Over a third also wish they had spent more time thinking about their future career path – with a quarter saying they think they would have been wealthier and happier had they made better decisions when they were young.

However, according to the research, while half of parents feel powerless to influence a child’s decision, 70 per cent of teens say that they play a key role in the decision-making process.

Last month, research from Coventry University, drew similar conclusions. Nearly a quarter of sixth former’s admitted that parental advice was one of the most important factors when selecting a higher education institution, and one in seven even said they valued the advice of parents over their own views.

Parenting expert, Sarah Newton, says that it is natural to worry more when children get to teenage years, because the decisions that they make can have a big impact on their future.

“We look back on our own #youth, as parents, and look at all the regrets that we have and we look at our teenagers and we want better for them, but it’s actually a time when teens are trying to gain control. It’s a challenge.

“What we have to be really careful of is not to step in too much as parents. We have to sit down and talk to them if we see them making a decision that is proving difficult. We should talk to them about the consequences and encourage them to take up opportunities.

“In terms of academic decisions, parents should get involved early. When you talk about the decisions a teenager makes, you have to highlight to them what they are saying ‘no’ to in the future by making this decision. If they choose to go to a party, instead of studying for an exam, what might they be saying no to?

“Children are very sensible, it’s just about reminding them that every choice they make has a positive or negative effect on the future.”

Parents’ regrets from their teenage years:

35 per cent regret not investing time in considering their future

36 per cent regret not studying hard enough

18 per cent regret not going to university

16 per cent regret not experiencing living away from home

16 per cent regret being frivolous with their money

14 per cent regret their choice of A-levels

12 per cent regret focusing too much time on boyfriends/girlfriends

12 per cent regret smoking too much

12 per cent regret drinking too much

11 per cent regret not having a part-time job

None of what’s been said comes as any surprise to me which is why I wrote my book called The Ultimate Guide for Parents: How to help your kids become self-confident, happy and passionate now available on Amazon.

The book guides parents through the process of inspiring teenagers to make good decisions about which subjects, courses and education pathways to follow. I also have an on-line course which is based on the book and is great for both parents and teenagers because more often than not parents don’t know what they want to do with their lives here.

You can try some of the course for FREE here.

It’s National Author’s Day today!

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NATIONAL AUTHOR’S DAY

Every year on November 1, millions of people celebrate authors and the books that they write on National Author’s Day.

After her grandmother’s death in 1968, Sue Cole promoted the observance of National Authors Day.  She urged people to write a note to their favourite author on November 1, to “brighten up the sometimes-lonely business of being a writer.”

She also suggested flying the American flag as another way of showing appreciation for the men and women who have created American literature.

HOW TO OBSERVE

Purchase some books by your favourite author to support them.

Use #NationalAuthorsDay to post on social media. #Lesley Strachan

This morning several of us our networking meeting celebrated National Author’s Day for our own books.

How to inspire confident career choices

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During the summer, I offered a summer work experience opportunity to a pupil from The King’s School in Southampton. His name was Ethan Brown and he was the best student I’ve ever had for the business and will go onto to do amazing things.

Now he’s gone onto #college I asked him whether he’d contact his #headteacher at his #school to see if I could go in and do a talk about how to find out what the #students loved to do and whether they could make a living out of their passions.

I recently gave interactive and engaging assembly at the school and I kicked it off with asking for three #volunteers to get the students engaged and involved.

I gave each student a poster to hold up and then asked the audience three questions:

  1. The first helper held a poster which said, “I have no idea what I want to do with my life and career”. We asked them to stand up and I was really pleased they did stand up because it’s quite a big ask to be so honest. I was reassuring them that there is no right or wrong answer and that I was here to inspire and support them to get a better handle on what they do want. Then a group of pupils stood up and we counted them.
  2. Next the 2nd student held up a poster which said, “I’m thinking about what I want but haven’t got very far.” Again, we asked the students to stand up for this as well and counted them.
  3. Thirdly, the last poster said, “I have an idea and I’m focused on what I want”. At this stage I found some brilliant examples including one young man who wants a career in professional basketball and had his journey planned out already.

The group then split into 2’s and we completed a workshop where one pupil asked another either “What don’t you want from your life and career?” and the answers could be something like – I don’t want to jobless or homeless. This technique works well with pupils who tend to think negatively about themselves. So, then the reverse psychology asks the question “So, if you don’t want that…what do you want instead.” This often triggers a light bulb moment for students.

By the time we’d finished all the pupils had a list of what they wanted or didn’t want and paved the way for thinking about the next stage in their lives. It also gives #careers leaders more information to help young people with their educational and job decisions.

The next stage is for these young people to complete a longer workshop either school or attend our 10-week programme. More details can be found here https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/limitless-a-unique-opportunity-for-teenagers-tickets-48077656565 or if you’d like to chat to us about an interactive assembly for your school please drop me a message or email to lesley@lesleystrachan.co.uk

We also have an on-line course – find out more here

Here’s to the future of our young people. Let’s give them a purpose for going to school, help them to choose subjects, courses and careers which will inspire and motivate them to work hard and do well because they’re passionate about life.

How to give your teenagers more responsibility

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For the last five years, schools have had to fund careers guidance from their overall budget as the £200 million dedicated budget was withdrawn from local authorities. For many, this has proved extremely challenging, and further cuts are on the horizon. The National Audit Office indicates that schools in England must reduce spending by 8% per pupil by 2020, and it is likely that careers guidance is in danger of dropping even further down the list of priorities.

So, it’s time for us all to step and take 100% responsibility for inspiring and supporting our young people. The question is – are you willing to give your teenagers more responsibility for their life and career and enable them to take small steps to achieve this?

If you are then tell them that you want to give them more responsibility for their live and career and talk about how they can do this.

For example, in casual conversation ask them:

“What would be the job you’d love so much that you’d do for free but that you could actually get paid for?”

Here’s a real example from this week. I met a student who said that she had known she wanted to be a photographer since she was 15 but had been re-directed in another field of study which made her sad and disillusioned and she dropped out of college. She said to me “If only someone had asked me how I could get paid for what I did and asked me to come up with a plan I would have been much happier.”

For those teenagers who don’t know what they want to do, ask them to think back over all the things they’ve done so far in their life – what made them the happiest?

Have your teenagers make a list of the things that make them happy and chat about how they might be able to make a living out of it. The how will come later the important thing is to start a conversation with your teenagers.

If students don’t know what they want from life – that’s fine as well. One tool I use with my students is to list all the things they don’t want from life e.g. to never to be able to live on their own, to live at home for the rest of their lives, to not be able to afford a holiday, you get the idea, right?

Over the next few blogs I’m going to give you some exercises to do with your teenagers so watch this space. If you simply can’t wait grab my book called The Ultimate Guide for Parents: How to help your kids become self-confident, happy and passionate now available on Amazon.

Or read more here

Does your teenager know what they want to do with their life and career?

TO MAKE GOOD DECISIONS, TEENAGERS NEED SELF-CONFIDENCE AND CLARITY. LESLEY STRACHAN OF THE LIMITLESS ORGANISATION CIC INTRODUCES A COURSE WHICH HELP TEENAGERS FOCUS ON CHOOSING SUBJECTS AND COURSES THEY WILL BE PASSIONATE ABOUT AND WILL ULTIMATELY PAVE THE WAY FOR A SUCCESSFUL LIFE.
Read more here and register your teenagers for this amazing unique event that is a different pathway to personal and career advice.
 The Limitless Organisation helps teenagers piece together a bright future

TO MAKE GOOD DECISIONS, TEENAGERS NEED SELF-CONFIDENCE AND CLARITY. LESLEY STRACHAN OF THE LIMITLESS ORGANISATION CIC INTRODUCES A COURSE WHICH HELP TEENAGERS FOCUS ON CHOOSING SUBJECTS AND COURSES THEY WILL BE PASSIONATE ABOUT AND WILL ULTIMATELY PAVE THE WAY FOR A SUCCESSFUL LIFE.

A CIPD event just for YOU

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CIPD Southampton Group

Getting people from where they are to where they want to be

Focusing on our own professional development. Using coaching, creating a balanced lifestyle and supporting life’s passions, Lesley Strachan explores what gives us our aspirations and motivation.

This is an interactive and thought-provoking session, looking at;

  • Taking time out for ourselves to think about what we want
  • What do you want, not want in your life for 2019?
  • Focusing on goals (financial, career, relationships, fun & recreation, fitness & health,and personal goals)
  • 100% commitment to your goals & accountability partnering
  • Take away an inspiring vision board.

As a result of attending this event you will:

  • Understand better your own passions and desires
  • Identify whether what you’re doing today is what you want to be doing tomorrow
  • Reflect over your own development and where it is you want to go in the next 12 months.

 

Please note that attendees should use the address, rather than the postcode, as some old satnavs will direct them to the Highfield campus rather than our building.

Refreshments will be served from 6pm with the event starting promptly at 6.30pm.

Our Speaker:

Lesley Strachan Consulting and Training
Award Winning Coach, Consultant, Speaker, Trainer & Adviser
The UK leader in Coaching “The Success Principles™

Lesley Strachan (MBA) is an Award-winning coach| consultant| speaker| trainer and adviser and is based in Hampshire, UK. She is also a Certified Jack Canfield Trainer in The Success Principles and uses her creativity and experience to inspire others through teaching, mentoring and coaching all over the world and has loads of fun doing it.

Lesley has over 30 years of experience working in the corporate and education sectors as well as years of experience as an Entrepreneur. Her areas of expertise include: career coaching, communication training, leadership training, corporate training, health and wellness, and educational consultancy. Lesley is also a mentor for young people for EBP and an Enterprise Adviser for The Careers and Enterprise Company Author of “The Ultimate Guide for Parents: How to help your kids become self-confident, happy and passionate.”

 

Professional photography and video production may be taking place at the event, and these images may be used on future promotional materials for CIPD. Please note that by attending the event, you are giving your consent for your image to be used on any CIPD promotional materials.

FAQs

 

Is there parking at the venue?

Yes. Please note that attendees should use the address, rather than the postcode, as some old satnavs will direct them to the Highfield campus rather than our building.

What refreshments will be on offer?

Tea, coffee and biscuits.

What is the refund policy for paid tickets?

We operate a 7-day cut-off date for ticket cancellations leading to a refund.

How do you use the personal information I provide when registering?

The Chartered Institute of Personnel and Development (CIPD) is a data controller, registered with the Information Commissions Office as required under the Data Protection Act 1998.  The CIPD is committed to protecting your privacy and will not share your personal information with third parties without your permission.  However, when entering in an event that is advertised on the Eventbrite website you will be consenting to your information being passed to the Event Organiser for them to use for the purposes of organising and running the event.  CIPD may also wish to process your personal information in connection with a variety of activities which may include the marketing and promotion of our services and the administration of files and records.  CIPD will only process your data in accordance with current data protection legislation.  The Event Organiser undertakes not to share that information with third parties.

Tops tips to manage exam anxiety

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Thursday, 1st November 2018

A unique 2 hour workshop to help you overcome the barriers to exam success!

Are you between 14-24 years old and someone who finds that the pressure of taking important exams makes you anxious and stressful? Or just someone who would find it helpful to know powerful techniques to help you perform your best when it really counts?

‘Managing exam anxiety’ is a unique workshop designed to help provide you with tools to help you if nerves and stress spoil your efforts in the examination room

During the workshop you will learn:

  • What is anxiety?

  • What are the triggers and symptoms of anxiety for you?

  • How to build a tool box of techniques to overcome your anxiety.

  • Five powerful distraction techniques that will help you.

  • Positive action you can take to beat your nerves

  • How to build and use your support network

Places are very limited, so early registration is advisable. The workshop will run from 6.30pm – 8:30pm and light refreshments will be provided.

We are running this workshop at a heavily subsidised cost of just £15, in order to introduce students to the work of The Limitless Organisation and places are available on a ‘first-come first-served’ basis.The workshop will be held at: Winchester School of Art, Park Avenue, Winchester, SO23 8DL

Book TODAY here: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/managing-exam-anxiety-tickets-50074830165?aff=ebdssbdestsearch

How creative industries students learn about business skills

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It is a great pleasure to be working with Masters Students in the Creative Industries at Southampton Solent University. The students are creative entrepreneurs who have or are going to set up their own creative enterprise or work as a freelancer.

To support these savvy entrepreneurs I am teaching them about how to think strategically and how to operate a start-up business using our simulation game called SimVenture Evolution. The learning experience is very hands-on and interactive and is a very different way of teaching #business an #employability skills.

SimVenture Evolution has a number of #simulations to play. At Southampton Solent University the students are learning the about the ups and downs of starting a business from scratch along with all the areas of a business that need to be considered to run an efficient business as a business owner or freelancer in the creative industries.

Together we’re looking at strategic thinking, marketing operations, production, R & D and all things to do with Finance. I’m looking forward to the next few weeks to see how everyone gets on.

Inspiring confident, career choices

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So there I was teaching Master students in a University the other day. All of them want to be, or already are Entrepreneurs and in the early start up phases of their businesses.

One conversation struck a note with me!

One lady said she’d known from the age of 15 that she wanted to be a photographer BUT….

Her parents, teachers and careers advisers had “stamped on her dream and passion for photography” and suggested a business degree instead. Unsurprisingly, she dropped out of this course within a year because that’s not where her passion lay.

Even more interesting was her comment that “I would have preferred that the people all around her would have asked – so you want to be a photographer how are you going to do that, what is the plan”?

She is now back in photography, has started her business and I wish her all the luck in the world.

I work with students like this all the time and over 70% have no idea of what they want to do which is why I offer schools, colleges and Universities the chance to do one day workshops to support and inspire their students.

By the end of the workshop students understand their passion and direction and come away with a plan of how they’re going to achieve their goals.

If you’d like to know more please email: lesley@lesleystrachan.co.uk